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Why Do We Focus On All The Things We CAN'T Do (Instead of What We Can)?

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Why Do We Focus On All The Things We CAN'T Do (Instead of What We Can)?

November 1, 2018

 Why do we focus on all the things we CAN'T do?  I can't fix my hair that way.  I could never write a book.  I can't give a talk in front of a bunch of people.  I can't quit this job I hate.  I can't sleep without my pills.  I can't take up yoga.  I could never (fill in the blank).  


Why do we constantly tell the stories of our limitations?  Does it not reinforce the negative energy to keep repeating it over and over to ourselves and others?  


I wish we could start talking about the possibilities instead.


There are a million POSSIBLES.


But we feel safer talking about the IMPOSSIBLES.




I think because talking about what we CAN'T do requires no courage.


It gives our brains and our egos an excuse not to try.  To play it safe.  To stay the same.  But why in the heck would we want to stay the same?  Probably because less is required of us. 


No expectations = no chance of failure.


I recently went through a phase of telling the story that I just didn't feel inspired to write anymore.  "No matter what I do, I just don't have the desire to write,"  I told so many  people, including myself.  The problem was, I was doing everything but sitting down and actually writing.  It was easier to tell that story than to actually try to do the thing I said I couldn't do.


The ego just loves to protect itself from it's own perceived humiliation.  If you never try, you can never fail and suffer the embarrassment of defeat.  


We need to teach the ego that the defeat is actually in the not trying.


The ones who refuse to try are the real losers.  Not losers because they are less than.  But losers because they lose out on the exhilaration of trying something new.  Taking the risk.  Doing the thing.


Maybe you CAN write a book.  Maybe you COULD sleep without those pills.  Maybe you CAN do your hair like that.  Yes, failure is a possibility.  But so is success.  And if you aren't willing to try, you lose the chance to find out.  


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